A special right? How ironic…
Sunday 15th August, 2010 - 12:58am
What is marriage exactly? For some, marriage is defined as a union between two people. Others would feel more comfortable if “a man and a woman” were to replace “two people.” To me, marriage is merely a legally-recognized union between two people. Note that I added the word legally because when a marriage is recognized by the legal system, the married couple receives basic benefits such as Social Security, right to inherit in case of death, joint parenting/adoption, and so on. Long-story short, I see marriage as [ideally speaking] a lifetime legal contract between two people. Now that you know where I stand definition-wise, I can finally move on to some of the common arguments I hear against gay marriage. I would like to make a disclaimer that they’re not in any particular order.
The gays shouldn’t be allowed to have this special right.
Again, the right to marry is the right to the benefits that the two [plus any additional party such as children] are to receive upon “signing” this legal contract. These rights to benefits are already given to the traditional, heterosexually married couples. In fact, right now these rights are exclusively given to the heterosexually married couples. Is it a special right? As of now, yes because it’s a special right given to the heterosexual couples. Therefore, in practical terms, this argument doesn’t make any sense.
Gay marriage is a threat to procreation.
Please do correct me if I’m wrong, but we are still dominated by heterosexuals population-wise so procreation wouldn’t be a problem. Besides, in some areas, there’s a population crisis going on. With that being the case, we could use a few homosexual couples to help balance things out…You know, but rescuing those homeless children and taking care of them through adoption. *BEGIN/Ultra-sarcasm* After all, our population is dwindling so quickly, we’re stuck with a bunch of homeless children that serve as nothing but a burden on society. *END/Ultra-sarcasm* Which reminds me, allowing gay couples to adopt children wouldn’t hurt. Since they couldn’t create their own children, it wouldn’t be surprising for them to want to adopt one. For all I know, they might be more willing to adopt children than heterosexual couples who have their own children to take care of. In fact, according to Williams Institute’s analysis, “for every child available and waiting for adoption, there are 16 lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered people wanting to adopt”. If only they were granted those rights…Perhaps granting gay couples certain benefits of marriage such as joint parenting/adoption would help children find a home instead of being stuck in some foster care without being able to settle in a home.
What about the children? They won’t have a healthy life without a father and a mother.
After “thirty years of research says the same, including a new 17-year study published this month in Pediatrics, the official journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics, concluding that children raised by lesbian parents do better academically, are more confident than their peers and have fewer behavioral problems.” (CNN) Though this is just one research that happened to be conducted for a few decades, I can confidently say that such aforementioned myth…Is merely a myth. Since I’m not really satisfied with the amount of evidence I have presented, I will find more articles to help further refute such myth.
As of now, these are the only arguments I could think of. If you have anymore arguments that you would like to present to me, please feel free to do so.
Mini-Update on Life
I’ve spent the Friday night with three of my close friends watching Dinner for Schmucks. Overall: worth the watch. In fact, there are quite a few [literally speaking here] LOL moments. Although I suspect I’m one of the later viewers of the movie, here’s the link to view the trailer.
Here’s one sad news: this might be my last time seeing them since I’ll be flying back to my college in about a week. Of course I may be able to see them again if we arrange ourselves to meet during the weekday. We’ll see what happens. Gosh I need to start packing…Anyways good night!