A special right? How ironic…
Sunday 15th August, 2010 - 12:58am
What is marriage exactly? For some, marriage is defined as a union between two people. Others would feel more comfortable if “a man and a woman” were to replace “two people.” To me, marriage is merely a legally-recognized union between two people. Note that I added the word legally because when a marriage is recognized by the legal system, the married couple receives basic benefits such as Social Security, right to inherit in case of death, joint parenting/adoption, and so on. Long-story short, I see marriage as [ideally speaking] a lifetime legal contract between two people. Now that you know where I stand definition-wise, I can finally move on to some of the common arguments I hear against gay marriage. I would like to make a disclaimer that they’re not in any particular order.
The gays shouldn’t be allowed to have this special right.
Again, the right to marry is the right to the benefits that the two [plus any additional party such as children] are to receive upon “signing” this legal contract. These rights to benefits are already given to the traditional, heterosexually married couples. In fact, right now these rights are exclusively given to the heterosexually married couples. Is it a special right? As of now, yes because it’s a special right given to the heterosexual couples. Therefore, in practical terms, this argument doesn’t make any sense.
Gay marriage is a threat to procreation.
Please do correct me if I’m wrong, but we are still dominated by heterosexuals population-wise so procreation wouldn’t be a problem. Besides, in some areas, there’s a population crisis going on. With that being the case, we could use a few homosexual couples to help balance things out…You know, but rescuing those homeless children and taking care of them through adoption. *BEGIN/Ultra-sarcasm* After all, our population is dwindling so quickly, we’re stuck with a bunch of homeless children that serve as nothing but a burden on society. *END/Ultra-sarcasm* Which reminds me, allowing gay couples to adopt children wouldn’t hurt. Since they couldn’t create their own children, it wouldn’t be surprising for them to want to adopt one. For all I know, they might be more willing to adopt children than heterosexual couples who have their own children to take care of. In fact, according to Williams Institute’s analysis, “for every child available and waiting for adoption, there are 16 lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered people wanting to adopt”. If only they were granted those rights…Perhaps granting gay couples certain benefits of marriage such as joint parenting/adoption would help children find a home instead of being stuck in some foster care without being able to settle in a home.
What about the children? They won’t have a healthy life without a father and a mother.
After “thirty years of research says the same, including a new 17-year study published this month in Pediatrics, the official journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics, concluding that children raised by lesbian parents do better academically, are more confident than their peers and have fewer behavioral problems.” (CNN) Though this is just one research that happened to be conducted for a few decades, I can confidently say that such aforementioned myth…Is merely a myth. Since I’m not really satisfied with the amount of evidence I have presented, I will find more articles to help further refute such myth.
As of now, these are the only arguments I could think of. If you have anymore arguments that you would like to present to me, please feel free to do so.
Mini-Update on Life
I’ve spent the Friday night with three of my close friends watching Dinner for Schmucks. Overall: worth the watch. In fact, there are quite a few [literally speaking here] LOL moments. Although I suspect I’m one of the later viewers of the movie, here’s the link to view the trailer.
Here’s one sad news: this might be my last time seeing them since I’ll be flying back to my college in about a week. Of course I may be able to see them again if we arrange ourselves to meet during the weekday. We’ll see what happens. Gosh I need to start packing…Anyways good night!
In my country, it’s legal for gays to marry and adopt and I’m really proud of that. I wish more countries can follow suit, USA is on its way but the religious homophobes over there are really slowing you down. Even South-America and India has legalized gay marriage!
Have fun in college!
I completely agree with you about gay marriage — why shouldn’t two people who love each other have the basic rights to inherit property, joint parenting, and hospital visitation rights? I’m pretty sure same-sex couples are allowed to adopt children, though, because I know some people who did…but maybe they aren’t both considered parents legally. I do think the U.S. is on its way to allowing gay marriage.
Dinner for Schmucks looks funny!
And also, I accepted your blog buddy application!
Marriage is something sacred. I love homosexuals, but not homosexuality. Though I respect their beliefs, I don’t share the same beliefs with them. I don’t support gay marriage at all. And I think it’s something that shouldn’t be legal right now
anyway i hope you’d still see your friends and spend more time with them!
I believe marriage is 2 people wanting to start a loving life together. I believe that everyone is equal no matter what. Unless they are felons :O!
I would love to watch Dinner for Schmucks! I`ve been wanting to for a while, but I never had the time, or my cousin’s just too busy
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Good luck in the upcoming school year!
Sometimes, I even forget the movie name :O! Or never know the name at all
. Steve Carell is a genius actor! Makes movies more hilarious 
! Especially with his role in “The Office”!
My school’s body system isn`t that big :O! In a hundred years, this is the first time that a double lunch period has been implemented :O!
I`ll get used to it somehow
! I just have 2 more years til I graduate ;D!
I agree with you. Marrigage should be a union of two people who love each other, no matter what gender.
I’ve been wanting to see Dinner with Schmucks. It looks funny.
Hey,Lexis You have applied to link exchange/Affiliate .. You are on my list now,please add me to yours,thank you.
My Oppinion concerning your website,it looks so clean &neat
and I loved it..I loved how great you matched cyan blue,& sky blue together,this looks awesome,congrats on that!
Reading your blog about marriage,etc..I Think that them most important thing is Love,the love that two couples shares in their relationship.
I Support gay rights,it’s not their fault,if they’re born different that us,with their different feelings..But the thing that when they adpot childs,I Think ..it’s kinda whatever..anyway..
Wish you goodluck,within your fly,to your college,hope this school year bring you happiness & joy,cya!!
Wow, I totally agree with everything you are saying. I am a proud supporter of gay rights, even though I am not homosexual myself. Why should we attack them when they can be perfectly happy?
Wow– I didn’t know that children actually do better with lesbian parents. What an interesting study!
Heyyah,Lexis I’ve changed my layout & wrote a new blog,would you mind checking it out,& giving me your oppinion? =D
Have a nice day,cyahh x <3
This is such a well written blog =D
I’m not gay but I fully support gay rights. They’re people too, they have feelings, they’re human and they deserve to have the same human rights (if marriage is classed as a human right? idk) as everyone else.
A child doesn’t need a mother and a father, a child needs a parent who is going to look after them, love them and provide for them. It doesn’t matter their gender, it doesn’t matter if a child has two mothers or two fathers.
“They won’t have a healthy life without a father and a mother.” my parents aren’t divorced but I imagine if they were, life would be harder because then I would only be able to see one parent at a time, surely a child would be better off with two parents who love each other under the same roof. Homosexuality isn’t some kind of disease you can pass on to other people.
You can’t change being in love with someone, you can’t help how you feel.
Quoting Peter from Family Guy – “If gay people want to get married and be miserable like the rest of us, let them” (or something along those lines XD)
I love when people blog on this
I’m excited to read your opinion 
Here I go.
And I’m back and all your arguments are mine. I’ll be honest and say that I don’t know whether I believe if homosexuality is a genetic trait or it’s a preference, but I will say that the only “valid” argument against gay marriage seems to be religion. Especially the religion (Christianity) I am investigating. But what I have observed is similar to what you say: Marriage is a legal union. I actual view it a little more cold and lifeless: marriage is a legal contract. Christians recognize the marriages of Jews and Atheists alike so I don’t see the difference between recognizing marriages for gays. It doesn’t matter if there’s an agreement on whether the Christian God would approve, it only matters that I wouldn’t want someone dictating how I live my life if it doesn’t infringe on others’ rights and harms them or myself. The last time I checked, gay marriages harmed no one.
And I actually read an article on that study just today
and thought to myself that women rock but besides the point lol, 2 parents will always be better than one
I agree with your views on gay marriage. I do not for the life of me understand people who say that they can be friends with or are relatives of people that are gay / bisexual / lesbian, but would never support letting them marry someone of the same sex. How can you say that?
Marriage creates a deep level of love and happiness in someone. How can you love someone as a friend or relative, but want to deny them the ability to love another person? It’s cruel and sick, in my opinion.
Anyhow. I hope you get to visit your friends back home. I’m moving back in a week, and I cannot WAIT to leave.
awww..yesss.. I agree with this… approving SAME SEX marriage is a bad thing.. it’ against the bible.. they are simply destroying the essence of “Marriage” and it’s sacredness.. O.o
hahahaha,, yessss… opinions are to be respected..
anyways, blogvertise is not a scam. I had the money transfered into my paypal already.. And I did tried using paypal before for shopping purposes. hahahaha.. 
Ah yes..it’s huge D:
i like gay people and have no problem with them getting married(: they recently passed it so they could get married in my state. but, then my little town decides they want to keep their town free from gay marriage so they tried to pass it so there couldn’t be any gay married people in my town. WHICH IS STUPID. it’s like..in the middle of no where. so i don’t see why it makes a difference
I don`t know if the comment went through :O! But I`ll enter it again
Thank you
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I would love to add you
! I`ll do that when I get home in 5ish hours! 
Take care!
That’s so cool,I’d like to spend most of my times with my friends too,I love playing video games,specially on my iPOD Touch,PC,and on my playstation2. I Do have a dog too,well I love pets,specially dogs&cats.
Well,that’s great you’ve been on 7/8 years graphic&web designing,well i’ve been doing this 3 years,& this is my 4th =D
Thank you,I’m really glad you all liked my new layout,I Think it looks way much better than the old one,thank you.
Yeah I think we must work hard,it’s worth it,cause at the end you will get the fruit of your hard work.
Cyah,have a nice week-end..I won’t be updating i’m going about three days vacation,with my family so we’ll catch up on TWITTER lately,I will be back on Monday,with some exciting news & updates,cyah x
I see you got talent in writing posts. Waiting for more articles